yehh. i started this year in a relationship which ended in april, i had been with him for 7 months. & then 3 weeks later, i was dating someone else. that ended after just 1 month. & then after that i was hooking up with people & yeh. & now all that is dead & i just don't like it. i got so used to being with a guy. i then i got my hopes up about this guy & wahh
Relationships can always become tough when a baby comes along. It should be the easiest thing in the world to have a baby with someone you love, but a third person changes the dynamics in a relationship and things can get difficult.
Do you get enough time alone together and get a babysitter so you can still go out together? Even though your child always comes first, you still need time for each other as well. I really hope you and Sam work it out ♥
soz about long wait for reply. been very busy with a little boy who is in pain due to teething.
basically things went downhill a bit, according to him, 4 months into my pregnancy. It got worse once Alex was born as I had undiagnosed PND (post natal depression.) It made me stressed out, felt as if I was getting no help AT ALL - and lets face it, the first two weeks of Alex's life he spent mostly on his computer... Sam then started to play it ALL the time, ignoring Alex and I - and that'd piss me off, so I'd nag him to help adn then he'd get pissed off at me nagging him 24/7. But he literally played up until he got ready for work, and then went on as soon as he got home from work. So we spent NO time together properly. Anyway, about 4 months or so after Alex wasz born (might be 5 months, can't remember) I finally plucked up the courage, went to the doctors, was put on fleoxutine (sp?) which is prozac, pretty mcuh. That helped, and things *did* get better. And now, he's gone back to playing his bloody game again. If it was Xbox I wouldn't care, cus he can pause that! But not this game he plays on computer. (MIR, if anyone is wondering..) So it makes me think that things are bad again. I'm a bit more stressy as of late, mostly because I'm the one taking care of Alex most of the time despite Sam only working 4 hours a day. I wake up at 9 with Alex, Sam doesn't wake up until 12, sometimes. Then he wants to play Mir.. And I'm almost expected to look after Alex. Today he has been stressy as hell (Sam) and he's pissing me off. I've got a dead sore throat, and head cold and today I wanted an hours or so kip after we got in from shopping and he acted as if it was a right pain in the arse! Let alone the fact I asked him to do the dishes he should've done *YESTERDAY* and he starts whining about he has to cook dinner too. Uhm, most of the time I end up washing up when I cook dinner too; get over it. And then he cba to feed Alex. The whole "i'm making dinner" excuse. Tempted to start using it myself; he only feeds Alex his fucking lunch.
So yeah, I'm getting kinda sick of it and I didnt even get my sleep this afternoon because Sam kept getting stressy cus Alex wouldn't stop crying - hello, he's TEETHING, insted of sitting on yoru fucking arse saying "oh alex please stooooop" "i dont know whats wrong with you" how about you try and do something like... I dunno, GIVE HIM TEETHING GEL. or WALK AROUND THE FLAT WITH HIM.
Seriously, if it wasn't so close to Xmas I'd be asking him to move out for a week or so. -_-
Jesus, men. He sounds JUST like my dad, he really does and my mum and I just nag my dad to get off his arse but obviously that's kinda different because they've been married for so long lol. I dunno what to suggest Becks, is he one to realise something if you were to cry about it in front of him? Proper open up to him about it in a calm way and try not to lose your rag (I know that's hard not to, though) as you do? Hope it's just a phase and he'll be more helpful with you and get off the game, I have no idea what that game even is but surely he can pause that too, no? Text me if you need to chat some more about it though at any point, I'm always available no matter what!
Men suck like that, don't they? UGH. More just hit the fan too, we're meeting his sister tomorrow - and he's whined earlier about how tired he is, and how many late nights he's been having so I pop into living room to get a drink and tell him to watch the time and he gets all stressy! Ugh. Seriously wonder why I even bother sometimes. Oh, I wish crying would help - but he still didn't stop for a while after I told him I thought that he believed this game of his was more important than Alex and I. (He admitted that when playing it he ignored us, it's and RPG) Then a couple of weeks after he actually stopped playing for a couple of months. He started playing again, for a little bit, but now its every day *again* he plays it once he gets out of bed and its SO annoying. This game doesn't have a pause function, ugh. Seriously feel like smashing up his computer sometimes - I swear that game causes so many problems in our relationship. :/
I'd throw the computer out of the window and then sit there and watch him sob over it, I'm far too mean haha. I actually dunno what to suggest becks but it's probably the game, my brother gets really pissy when playing games like WOW and stuff, winds him up and it sounds like it's doing the same to Sam... Funnily enough they have the same name lol. I wish I had something to suggest to you but I hope it all works out and he realises he has a family now and some game isn't everything <3
you often find that women mature loads when pregnant, but men don't. sam probably just doesn't realise how much work actually goes into looking after babies, & its only going to get harder. is alex crawling yet? cuz thats really frustrated. (babies at the nursery i'm at are trying to crawl but can't quite yet & just scream for ages & just yeh). plus the 'terrible twos'. all you can do at the moment is talk to sam about how you're feeling :/