there's this guy i've known 3 or 4 years. we talked on and off. half way through 2010, we started flirting a lot, but that was it. we then stopped talking. about november last year, we started talking again & got really close. me & my two best friends, (chris and nat) another friend of mine & this guy went downtown. & then for new years eve, me and my two best friends went to this guys house. we got drunk, as you do. next thing i know, we're on his kitchen floor making out. & then in his bed. it was mentioned in texts several times after that, but we didn't talk about what it meant. he took me home first & then took nat & chris home after. they asked what happened between us & he said something along the lines of "i'm not entirely sure what she meant by last night but i'd like to see where this goes." last friday, we went to his again to finish the New Years Eve alcohol. we got drunk, but sobered up after a bit. he had disappeared so i went to look for him; found him in his room. we were talking about deep stuff. next thing i know, it was 1am & we're in his bad kissing again. by this time we were sober. went to sleep, & in the morning it happened again. but this time, we haven't really talked about it. idk.
seems okay? here's where it gets complicated.
he's a scout leader, & summer last year he went to france with his scout thing & he met this girl there. they talk all the time. he likes her, she likes him. but, he kept telling me that she was pissing him off & wasn't sure if he still liked her because she lived in Scotland and he lives in Derby & the fact he couldn't make a relationship work with a girl who lived in Chesterfield made him know that it wouldn't work with this Scottish girl. so i was always like "do you want to waste your time on something you know won't work?" & he was like "that's what i'm thinking" blah blah blah. then he said "i talked to stacey & we're good. i just don't want to fall for someone i can't have" which confused me. & then he said "i'm going to London on wednesday to see stacey" so i was like, oh okay. turns out, she's moving to France today for 10 months. today, he text me like "i'm in london waiting for stacey. no idea what we're going to do for three hours" i was like "THREE HOURS?! you've gone to london to see a girl you don't even like anymore for three hours?!" i said that to my college friends, not him though. but i just think that's mental. & then i got a text from saying "stacey left " as soon as she had gone. i'm so confused about what's going on. i don't know if what he told me was the truth & that he generally doesn't like her, or if he was just said what he did to get into my pants.
OH. & last night he text me all "no job = no money = no friends" as in, having no money to see friends. i replied with "so i'm not your friend? " & he responded with "of course you're my friend. i'd even count you as my best friend" & i'm sat here thinking, "but best friends don't sleep together several times...."
GAH. why do guys have to be so confusing?! omg. this has confused me so much right now, like my mind is constantly on the go, coming up with different reasons to what's going on. wahhhh
Last Edit: Jan 18, 2012 22:37:01 GMT 1 by NaomiOfC
Post by xAngelPromisex on Jan 19, 2012 12:10:03 GMT 1
Aw Nom Wish i knew what advice to give here but i really don't know HOW to help considering that i have no experience with guys at all Though guys are always complicated. Don't think we'll ever understand what goes on in their heads
'Du Bist Alles Was Ich Bin Und Alles Was Durch Meine Adern fließt'
he text me last night all "what are you doing tomorrow morning?" he wanted to see me but i was at the nursery so i couldn't. he's been texting me all day (apart from when i was at the nursery & at the gym) & he text me all "come snuggle with me on the sofa" i'm really confused right now.
Try this: Don't take everything he says too seriously or to heart, he sounds confused about what he actually wants to be honest. Some best friends do actually sleep together several times, I have friends that sleep with their male best friends and vice versa.
okay so uhh. yesterday, i went to my best friends work do. my best friend was wasted by 8pm (before we even got to the party) so i was like, being her 'mummy' all night & didn't drink at all. (a couple of drinks at a friends house for pre-drinks & then one drink at the actual venue). the guy who its 'complicated with' was texting me all night. around half 10, the conversation went like this: spud: i'm back home now. might have a casual shot me: *great idea* come see meeee spud: i might do me: dooo. & you can see nat too :L spud: i can't really gate crash me: outside? spud: now? me: yeh. do it. spud: on my wayyy me: seriously? spud: yeah. see you in the car park outside in 10 minutes
so yeh. i went in his car, nat went into town with other people from work. got back to his & i got a call from nat, so we had to go do some errands to take her home (she was stranded) & then we went back to his & yeh... & he said "i love the way we fit together like a puzzle piece" & then he asked me what he can say to his mates that knew he'd gone to see me & they were gonna ask him if he 'got it'. i asked who knows about me & he was like "a few of my mates. i do sort of talk about you a lot & how i- no. i can't finish the rest of that sentence."
WHAT?! the rest of that sentence is really bugging me grrrr. -.-
Last Edit: Jan 22, 2012 14:39:48 GMT 1 by NaomiOfC