Relationships [and related things]

[HomosexualGuitar]

Totally agree.

Changes may be for better or for worse but in the end we can't help it. We can only get over it and move on with life!



Kraig-x

[-kels-]

Agreed 100%

[Skye.]

ermm lets see...
Well Gianni, i liked him for ages and he eventually asked me out after 8 months
broke my heart after one
then there was Jamie who was obsessed with me for ages and i wasn't that interested but i was lonely so i agreed to going out with him
MEANWHILE Jack in the year above flirted continuously, i got off with him. Jamie didn't know.
I went on holiday for two week, hanging out on a beach and conveniently forgetting to mention to the hot dutch boy Nick with tattoos and piercings i was 15 [@ the time] and not single.
Left Nick in Cuba as my holiday romance.
Came back to London to find out my best friend had slept with Jamie and the majority of his friends
he didn't tell me for 5 weeks.
Then single for a while, met Dan, weren't to interested but again i grew to like him.
Lasted 5 months but then we grew apart and decided it would be better if we left it.
Went to a house party, got back with Jack, found out Jack had a girlfriend who was at the party
ermm.. got caught up in their little arguement...and been single ever since
complicated i know.

[B.eckii ♥]

First one- Wil.
Two-ish months, about to act on our hormones and then his dad rang so we couldn't. I told my best friend, whom I believed to be trustworthy enough to keep it to herself; evidently not as she told her boyfriend Paul (Wil's best friend) who then told Third (my friend, wil&pauls best friend) and it got out he couldn't trust me. he dumped me but was nice about it, and looked after me because i cried about it. he like kept cuddling me and apologising. my nicest ex, seriously. - still friends

Second - Alex. Yeah, big down below but reminded me of a hampster whilst getting jiggy with it. i got bored, i ended it.

third- Bish. Hot guy, met him beginning of college -- he was a second year -- we went out about two months, we had a break early in 'cuz we were both getting over relationship failures [me w/ alex. him with his ex] we kissed... three times? once was just a peck on the lips. he bought me a gorgeous ring from NEXT which I still have but now it's as a friendship ring. (he gave it back to me when we became proper friends again) he dumped me by text.

Fourth - Kibble, college. Lasted three days, I dumped him in the nicest way possible. - still friends

Fifth - Dave, college, lasted about 3 months. can't remember. had a good relationship then it broke down. he dumped me. (i deflowered him, haahaa.) - still friends

Sixth, and final as of so far- Fizzy, college. Great guy, great relationship. Good bed life ; D. A few arguments here and there but everything was still dandy afterwards. Came close to breaking up, but then didn't. But did a few weeks later. Lasted four months and three weeks. He broke up with me. We started going back out innnn.. November/December. (I asked him out, when drunk but was happyy when he said yes) I got bored. we saw eachother once a week, and sometimes that didn't happen, and he'd come over on a wednesday night after D&D at 11pm. I broke up with him- still friends.


Now, I'm single and happy.


Perfect guy? Here we go, this goes for my perfect girl too: Good looking, obviously. I have to feel comfortable around him, and the same for him.her feeling comfortable about me. Not afraid of a small amount of PDA. Likes similar music, and can have a good time. Spontaenious. Up for a laugh. Makes me laugh. I LOVE guys with great senses of humour, whether it be dirty or not. Oh, and dominating. But romantic. I like guys and girls who are dominant in the bedroom, but romantic as well. [: respects&likes me for who i am. isn't scared to see me at my worst. trustworthy. loyal. lol, i'll stop.


My relationships usually start off really good, then go down hill. Usually I'm the one who ends up hurt. I hate breaking up with people, but people seem to love breaking up with me. It's easy because I don't fight it. I lead them down that road by the question 'what do you want? i mean. honestly. whatever you want. it's fine with me.' cuz in the end as long as they're happy, I will be in the long run. I mean, I've had shit boyfriends but I've had good ones too. My first boyfriend, Wil, messed me about a lot- as did Bish. But in the end we're still friends. I have low self-esteem though it might not seem it, I'm confident in the way I am. Yes. But not in the way I look. I try my hardest to work things out, and I guess that's my downfall in relationships I try to hard and then I just give up. I like being in them, I like the security of someone being there for me but half the time guys just don't want to be there for me when i'm at my worst. fair enough, if i could run away from me on a bad day I would. Lol

But I'm happy having a break from relationships, and right now I don't even want to find a guy, or girl, to be with for a while. I'm only seventeen, nearing eighteen. No need to settle down yet. [:

[HomosexualGuitar]

Its nice you're still friends with your exes Becks =] I'm friends with only one of mine at the moment, but I rarely see her anyways, so, yeah.


Hmmm, my perfect guy/girl would have to be able to put up with me for a start. And I'm a bit of a romantic guy, so they'd have to like being showered with praise and maybe gifts XD I'd appreciate someone who's patient, and who can either stand my taste in music or likes it as well, and I'm right sell-concious so a little flattery would get you everywhere with me. ;D


Oh, and I think I might mention this since Nikki asked for advce. I used to have a huge huge huge crush on a friend of mine, who luckily was a girl otherwise a guy might've felt a bit weird, heh. We were brilliant friends for ages and my crush was kept secret until an internet friend of ours fell out with me and ended up telling her. At first it wasn't a problem, but after a while I started getting really obsessed with her.

I fell out with her constantly over small things that were always somehow linked to my crush on her. But we honestly did have some good times despite it. I think this lasted about a year and a half before we had a major fall out that ended up with me pretty suicidal. I ended up calling a friend of mine and crying down the phone to her and basically spilling my guts about everything I've felt and done and said and stuff. A week after that things were slowly back to normal.

But of course it couldn't last. Around the end of year 10 I stopped hanging around with that group of friends altogether, and she oddly enough was one of the few of them who would talk to me. We ended up going to Manchester's Gay Pride festival together at the end of August, and she used to come over and tlak to me at the beginning of the year. That was of course until I got drunk in town and my friends took me to where I was supposed to be meeting them lot. She and them were really nice to me, getting me home and sobering me up. Then over MSN later they all completely tore me apart, which was totally understandable.

She gave me a second chance cause it was my birhtday soon and I'd gotten tickets for her, me and her twin sister to go see Kill Hannah on the Friday after school. We were alright that night, but I ended up drunk again the following Saturday, which she hated, and she hasn't spoken to me since.

It was after my holiday in Rome that I finally decided 'Its time to fucking get over her', which I managed rather well. I still think of her that way every now and then, but its only when I see her, and I rarely see her.


(And that was way more than I'd wanted to put XD)




Kraig-x

[B.eckii ♥]

I fell in love with my best friend back when I was about thirteen.
My female best friend.
It sucked majorly not being able to tell her,
let alone being able to be with her.
The love has faded, and the flame's gone out
I'm glad of that.

[HomosexualGuitar]

I think I was in love with my friend.
I know I was in love with a dude-friend once, for sure. Since... year 6-ish. I only got over him about year 8 XP



Kraig-x

[liz]

I agree it`s nice if you can stay friends. Me and my ex Kai ( the one who I broke up with coz of his insanely ex girlfriend ) are still really good mates. He flirts with me alot and sometimes I feel like I`d like to get back with him, but I know she`s still the same, so it`d be pointless. And they have their daughter together, so it`s not like she`s ever going to go away Lol.
I`ve never really felt that obsessed thing. I have the opposite problem. I find it hard to get close, to let myself really fall for someone. I think it`s coz I`ve been hurt. A kinda self preservation thing.

[Kiah[TH<3]]

beckah said:

I fell in love with my best friend back when I was about thirteen.
My female best friend.
It sucked majorly not being able to tell her,
let alone being able to be with her.
The love has faded, and the flame's gone out
I'm glad of that.

Same! It was one of the worse things ever, and I think she started suspecting and setting of some pretty crappy rumours....=/ Not fun when just beginning high school...being labled a lesbian for no reason.

I went out with a guy in yr 5/6.......who turns out to be gay.......And is now a close friend of mine XD It's a strange thing. Luckily, I did NOT turn him gay, apparently that was Sarah's fault lmao XD

Um, next guy was in yr 10 and I was in year 8 -giggle- Everyone thought it was like hugely exciting....BUT the guy was a TOTAL geek barely even kissed me, his mum stayed with us EVERYWHERE and he kinda...got slightly obsessive...texting me non-stop....etc. I ended it kind of harshly down the phone, after he bugged me all day about why I hadn't returned his billion texts/calls.

Um, year 9...Stuart...poor sweet little stuart. My first pull. Not pleasant I must say XD He was about...5ft nothing...I was about 5ft 9 at the time. We were kinda like the joke of the school....people would come up and be like "OMG you and STUART...WHAT?!?" and let's just say I decided to end it....he was kinda upset...He still doesn't know that I nearly got raped whilst dating him in a sleeping bag with a guy I luckily have NO contact with at all anymore. Thank f**k. But hopefully what happened doesn't count as cheating...Stuart's like one of closest guy mates now, so at least we're alright with each other.

I had the hugest crush on my next bf, for aaaages. I fancied him when my best mate dated him. =S Not good. I started getting fairly confident with him and my best mate somehow managed to get us together. Turned out he thought I was a bit of a joke, we went on one date which I innocently thought went ok, he didn't and I ended up being humiliated by the fact he told all his mates he didn't want to go out with me and then ignored me when I tried to speak with him. I managed to dump him first...not that I wanted to..but i didn't have the guts to actually tell him he literally broke me. =[ I ended up being depressed and anorexic for a year because of him.

Year 10 was a bit better. Dated Edmund my best mate and other best mates ex XP. Black and proud, for a number of reasons He was a big boy. LOLZ. The sweetest guy you will EVER meet or know. Sensitive, kind and horny. XD It kinda...just never really got fully going though. I eventually broke it off coz I didn't want to prolong anything or make it painful.

Ended up asking him out again drunkenly. Still an old flame thing. Tbh, I think I was just jealous of someone else flirting with him and wanted to get in there before her. Only lasted a week. I realised I was being pathetic and talked it out with him. We still tight. He's now dating another of my mates lol, but they make an amazing couple.... Still a hint of jealously though...but I'm ignoring it....It's not fair on them.

And then my girl liking side happened to cause me to have a crush on one of my mates...which I'm working over...coz it's pointless. She's straight.

I am "dating" a girl. But it's only a joke ish type thing. The "Oi, kiah, go out with me beyatch." "LOL wtf sure." "Yaaaaay, we lesbiiiians now" "hellz yeah" type thing. She's hot though, and we somehow seem to be quite close when we're drunk.....If you get me....=/ she confuses me. But it's pointless to wish for more when there is probably nothing there.

-sigh-
And now I am one of the only singletons left in my friend group. Joy. Meeting guys/girls at gigs doesn't really cut it anymore. I want something love fueled and passionate, but it seems unlikely....

-realises she has just rambled away a life story.....- XD;
Sorry...

[Kiah[TH<3]]

Oh and yeah, I join claire in the p*nis envy thing. Men have all the luck lol.

[HomosexualGuitar]

Heh heh heh. I think the whole gender thing is over-rated. Thats why I don't care if a person is a guy or girl. I once fancied someone who I couldn't tell if they were a girl or buy! XD Eventually found out they were a girl, and even then I didn't believe them =P

Question for y'all: If a boy or girl you knew/liked/dated turned out to actually be the other sex, would you be that bothered? (Like, if they were transsexual or something.) I think I can honestly say I would be assed, people can be who they are comfortable being. And its a bonus if they're hot XD



Kraig-x

[liz]

The only way I`d be pissed of is if I had been in a long relationship with them, and they didn`t tell me about it. Even then I`d be open minded, because, when is a good time to tell someone something like that! Lol. I really meant what I said before. In my experience life doesn`t always seem to have much happiness to offer. If you find it, you should hang onto it - no matter who it`s with. My mum loved this guy her whole life. They were childhood sweethearts. Then boyfriend and girlfriend for 5 years in their teens. They broke up over something ridiculous but ended up spending half their lives apart. Both of them had sad lives because they really wanted to be together. Eventually they did get back together, but then, just a year later he was killed. The thing I learnt from this is that you have to take your chances while you can. We don`t know what`s around the corner. And if you love someone, it doesn`t matter what anyone else thinks - just be thankful for it and enjoy it.

[Aerrow [:]

i thought i was in love with my best boy mate at one stage and that was whilst i was ENGAGED to my boyfriend of 2 years and then i dont know why but i never cheated on him then the slimy w*nker cheated on me and split with me after i miscarried.
now i wish i did cheat on him

i have some fat dude who wants me and i'm like
"i'm deperate but not that desperate!!"

[liz]

i have some fat dude who wants me and i'm like
"i'm deperate but not that desperate!!"

I know we`d all love to have boyfriends who look like Bill and Tom lol, but that `fat dude` is a person with feelings like the rest of us. He feels the same way you do when you like a guy who doesn`t like you back, ya know? Don`t be too harsh on him

Sorry to hear the other guy was such a b*stard!

[Aneiraaa ~]

Heh I hate that ¬_¬