Relationships [and related things]

[turner]

well he sounds like a dick then.

[NaomiOfC]

^ YES. :')
it's been nearly 6 months. my longest ever relationship :')

[turner]

Haha yes i was like that too; so excited to have been with someone for 6 months. :')

[stephnehh]

update! hahaha.

well, on satrday was about to go upstairs at work for something and the babe came in at that exact moment! so i went for the lift and he went up the escalator to get the lift on the next floor so he got in when i was in it and then he was like 'oh hey!' then asked me about how my day had been so i explained and asked him back and he was like 'it's freezing! but busy so that's good, (:' and i was like 'ah yeah :] so are you going out for Corrin's birthday then?' and he was like 'i didnt actually know about it until today when i was speaking to cindy! i'm going to a night out already for my friend, she used to work here? it's her birthday so we're gonna go out, so we'll be in ~whatever place he said~' and then in the middle of saying that we got to a trolley thing and he stopped and started leaning on it so i was like ?! and we stood blethering about it and i was like 'ah nice! i just kinda got told i was going tonight, so yeah!' and he was like 'aww, fair enough (:' and then he said he might come along for a bit :3

then he was like 'ahwell, see ya ' then we left xD
he made eye contact with me A LOT today too. ;D

and he ended up coming! <3
looking fiiine. ;D
then the next day at work he was coming through and came right through my ~area~ and i was like OHMYDAYS! but that's not important.

then after work i was going in town with a girl from work and my friend and they bought stuff from him at the cafe, and we had some stupid banter...ish which was cute xD

i apologise for my stupid stories guys!

[turner]

No it's really sweet.

I kissed a boy last night. He's sort of stalking me. Then I kissed a girl. She has a boyfriend, but I like her better. :/

[NaomiOfC]

i agree with turner
awhh turner :/
it's 6 months on saturday

[hannahxkaulitz]

steph - it is suuuuuper cute they're not silly stories at all!

[NaomiOfC]

skjdg tonight, nathan was pretty proper immature & running round like a little kid, chasing after his best mate & then i asked him for a hug. A HUG. & he basically just barged me out the way. i felt so rejected & ugh. so i kept away from him all night 'cz i was so annoyed. & then he got mardy when i wouldn't give him a hug. & now it's all slkhgh. ugh, i hate it when he's like this. acts like i'm not around & then acts like he's sorry & misses me & didn't mean it. iskdjihg >:C

[turner]

Yeah silly games like that will mess with your relationship.

[PippinMcGee]

Aww, Naomi, I'm sorry, he sounds like a tool. He needs to stop messing you about pronto.

Ahhrg, I am SO annoyed - my best guy-mate (who I've had a friends-with-benifits thing with for a while) just asked out the girl he knew I liked! Worst still, she said yes. Utterly fuming - I feel like she's been leading me on to get closer to him

[NaomiOfC]

awwh! omg *huuuug*

[melloni88]

Urgh...I don't know how to start this really....maybe a brief history would be good first

So, basically I met my best friend at college - we had a wonderful relationship and everything was lovely. We could tell each other anything, even stuff we had never been able to explain to anyone else...it was more like a platonic relationship than mere best friends, to be honest.

Then we moved to London together. At first everything was still great but he became more cold and distant with me over time (to the point he called me clingy for hugging him goodnight - even though that is what I had always done). He stopped talking to me and I started avoiding him so that I wouldn't have to face how far apart we were drifting.

Then the final blow came - he decided to move out of our flat and only gave me two weeks notice. I was already pretty angry about this as it could have meant I'd be stuck in the flat with strangers but I swallowed it down and carried on anyways.

Then, when I was in the middle of moving all my stuff out he allows this girl to move in to the flat without having had her contract looked at or her references checked. Basically, I had no idea who this girl was. For all I know she could have taken all of my stuff in the night and nobody would have found out. So, of course, I called the landlord in a rage - I didn't even think of talking to Duane because, at this point, I felt he wouldn't listen. Or tell me I was overreacting.

A few days later I get a call from him - asking me why I called the landlord and didn't talk to him first. At first I managed to stay calm, but then he started going on about how 'clingy' I was and 'un-independent' and I lost it. It all came spilling out - I told him that he seemed to not have any emotions anymore, that he had basically become a robot and was only interested in having people around who were 'useful' to him. I also pointed out that I didn't understand why he was still friends with me if he hated so many core things about my personality. Needless to say, I told him I wouldn't be speaking to him for a while.

I told myself that the only way I would ever forgive him was if he apologised.

Three years later.

So, for some reason he didn't delete me off of facebook (until today - which is the reason for this post), and so, in my head there was always this chance in there...this temptation to message him and try and find the person I once knew again. I know distance builds enchantment, and I certainly find myself thinking more about the good times these days than the bad...but I still remember what I promised myself, that I needed an apology before I could see myself being friends with him again. But am I being the petty one? Would it look pathetic for me to email him and ask him if he still feels there is anything there left to salvage? I'm not sure I want to put my heart on the line like that but on the other hand I am also not sure if I want to keep thinking about how we both might have thrown away something special.

Basically, I have no idea what to do...

Thank you if you actually read this whole post <3

[xAngelPromisex]

If i were you, i think that i would message him and just find out if there is any way that you guys could still be friends. I, myself, have a really close friendship with my best friend, but sometimes it's hard for us because she lives in Germany and i live here in England. I know that if something came between us and she did something like what your friend did, i would feel like you. I would feel like i need an apology before i could do anything. But then, i guess it seems clear that you are not going to get one. And if i were you, i wouldn't be able to cope without even trying and seeing if there was anything left to our friendship. If not, at least you've tried. You'll have showed that you're the better person by trying to make things right when he will not. If it doesn't work, then at least you know that you have tried. Then you won't have to think about what might have happened.

Hope this helps a little

[JessicaNyappy:3]

well,
from my last relationship i was bullied and victimized for the whoooole thing
then he thought i cheated on him when i tried to be honest about a accidental misunderstanding with a guy friend - he didnt listen to me, he acted like a child as he always did then wrote what i had apparently did on facebook which then lead to my older sister going mental (hey she doesnt want me to be sexually active, infact why does she want to know?) everyone had ago at him told him what he did was childish and he should stop trying to humilate me
then a week later he inboxed me and told me he cheated on me a day before we broke up, hyprocrit. he didnt even say sorry for what he did
in other words guys


dont tie yourself down to someone just yet

have fun

[melloni88]

Mar 14, 2011 8:01:05 GMT 1 xAngelPromisex said:

If i were you, i think that i would message him and just find out if there is any way that you guys could still be friends. I, myself, have a really close friendship with my best friend, but sometimes it's hard for us because she lives in Germany and i live here in England. I know that if something came between us and she did something like what your friend did, i would feel like you. I would feel like i need an apology before i could do anything. But then, i guess it seems clear that you are not going to get one. And if i were you, i wouldn't be able to cope without even trying and seeing if there was anything left to our friendship. If not, at least you've tried. You'll have showed that you're the better person by trying to make things right when he will not. If it doesn't work, then at least you know that you have tried. Then you won't have to think about what might have happened.

Hope this helps a little

That does help actually, thanks <3 So far everyone has just told me to forget it and leave it be but I'm not sure I can. I might leave it a few months and then send him something for his birthday...I'm too proud to message him straight away because then he will know that he got to me. I would rather look like it was what I had planned all along in the first place xD

Thank you though <3 I was getting really upset last night thinking about what I would do if something happened to him and I was the last to know...I guess I just have to accept that a part of me hasn't give up hope that the person I love is still in there somewhere.